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I was watching a documentary the other day, about the huge advancements medicine has made in recent years. And it was rather surprising for me, that one segment focused solely on cosmetic surgery. It is so popular now, so mainstream that it advertises everywhere, bill boards, magazines, and apparently documentaries.
But I do not understand why everyone is so focused on being physically perfect, with disregards to everything else. So fixated on being a carbon copy of a glorified created role model.
Because we are so much more than just a body, and no amount of nose jobs/implants/lifts/toe surgery (omg this actually exists?!) will ever change that.
What makes us different, is what sets us apart, what defines us, and makes us unique. I am not sure how striving towards being an exact artificial copy of some one else, is supposed to make us happier.
If it is to attract love, then shouldn’t we be loved for who we are, rather than who we pretend to be?
Our imperfections, are in essence who we are. We are a bundle or unique characteristics joined together into the package you see before you. You could, take years perfecting the box, and working on the wrapping, till it looks as perfect as can be, to anyone looking from a distance.
But once you open that box, the rest of you will still be there, unchanged, incomplete.
Instead, complete the whole you. Work on every single aspect of your being, not just the artificial ones. Seek to grow, to understand, to fully evolve.
Spend time alone, and learn to enjoy it. That is the first step in figuring out who you really are on the inside.
Because that is the real issue here, isn’t it? Most people have no clue as to who they want to be, and what they desire to acheive, so they just copy someone else, who appears to be doing great.
But there are so many wrong things in following such a protocol, i don’t even know where to begin. First off you don’t really know if that person is truly happy, it could be a facade, honesty is not really at the top of our society traits these days.
Then there’s the possibility that what that person is doing, might not work for you. Because we don’t all find fulfillment the same way. And finally, people only seem to copy the external shell, they focus on appearances. They don’t even bother trying to copy the entire content of a person’s being, not to say that that’s possible in any way, because it is not.
So why are you doing this? What is the purpose?
if you are doing it for the sake of love, or finding a mate, then artificial evolution, will only draw artificial beings towards you. Is that really what you want?
If in fact it is, you are so far from happiness, that you are now deluding yourself.
No real, lasting happiness can come, from being empty. None. Ever.
I promise you…
Ahmad Al Charif 
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I so agree with you! Especially amongst girls has this idea of a perfect body has become too fixated upon. It is polluting the minds of people and driving them more and more away from their souls. I mean, it is not only the idea of a perfect body, but perfect clothes, jobs, cars etc, everything that has to do with external factors. I have met so many of these people, and they appear so shallow. I know for a fact that deep down inside, they are not, But they are so caught up in this comepetition for perfection that they have started living life only from the outside in, and not the inside out. Many of the girls I have met who are like this have developed a very offensive attitude, they think it is better to attack before someone attacks them. The result being that they attack everyone, also the ones who are trying to be kind and sweet to them. Everything is about competition, and even stabbing the opponent in the back is okay if it gets you to the goal faster. And what is the goal? No one really knows. The perfect body, the perfect face, the perfect wardrobe? Does this really exist? I mean who is the judge? Who determines what is perfect? Who is given the role of judge and jury? No one knows……And then, when age starts creeping up, then all effort is put into trying to stay young and beautiful. How sad. What a waste of time, and waste of a life. I know that real beauty has nothing to do with what you look like on the outside. Real beauty is soul-beauty, that beauty that lasts forever, that is eternal. That beauty has nothing to do with body, age, eye color or hair color. Real beauty transforms you, and shines through, even on the outside. It makes your energy and aura so beautiful that you draw in anyone and everyone, even animals. The world becomes attracted to you, not on a physical level, but on a soul-level, and that is when your life will really start changing for the better. That is when you will truly feel happy from within.
Wow, wonderful comment, really intense…. and i couldn’t agree with you more! There is always this “one more thing” people are after, until the next big thing is out, and the loop continues.
thank you for sharing your thoughts, i really enjoy reading your content and comments 🙂
Lovely write up….totally agree with you! People should really be their natural selfs,I have always never even like make up,tell my daughter too,to be away from all these things.Wonder how people can go to such heights and torture their bodies!
it really amazes me, what little it takes to get people riled up, and lined up for the next procedure! Thank you for stopping by, and i hope your daughter is listening 🙂
Your welcome:) yes my daughter listens till I’m near her,as I turn my back she’s up to her make ups even at home just for the beautiful selfie pics for instagram😂
hehe, well good luck! and my god i will never understand the concept of selfies! 🙂
Hehehe…..all the youngsters in my family have taught me too the art of selfie:) try it,it’s not so bad once you know the tricks😂
Great article. I wish i would have known all of this a few years ago when i got my first surgical procedure at 19 years old. I was in a deep depression and thought that looking better would solve all my issues but it only made them worse. I have absolutely noticed i have been attracting the wrong people because of the state of mind that i was in at the time, you attract what you feel you deserve. I decided a month ago i was not going to get a second procedure elsewhere because i feel that i have grown so much spiritually in the last few months, like an awakening, and what i thought was important in the past is now an illusion that society has implanted in our minds. Cool stuff, keep it up 🙂
Thank you Yvonne for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! I am sorry to hear about your past struggle, i just wish more people would take the time to read, talk and above all think about what it is they are doing to themselves…
i am glad that you were able to see the positive in the process, that is a blessing!