Ahmad Al Charif

People are getting very good at judging each other. It has become such a common practice, that nobody stops to think about it anymore, and invest the time needed to actually figure out what the reality is.

Assumptions, have been slowly creeping up, and replacing the good old facts. Think about it, when was the last time you had a talk with a friend, where you mentioned a third party, and you yourself did not make assumptions?

It has been becoming so deeply molded into our society now, that our entire language reflects this:

“Oh i guess he doesn’t really want me there, you know because of the thing that happened last month at the office”.

X: “So you think she really doesn’t care enough to call?”

Y: “i think so, otherwise she would have”

“Most probably they are too busy”

أغلب ظني، بعتقد، على الأرجح، إنّو لو كان بدّو ما كان حكي شي؟!

But why? Why do we do that? You either know, or you don’t. “I think so”, “maybe”, “most probably”, “i guess”, are all recipes for injustice and failure. Granted, sometimes you will guess right, and avoid confrontation. But what about the times where you are wrong?

What about the failed relationships and friendships that could have been easily salvaged with a little bit of effort, and a simple question? Are your lives so perfect and complete now, that everyone and everything is disposable at the whim of a guess?

Where is the evidence? Where is the truth?

Don’t be the judge, jury and the executioner. Look for facts, not for stirred emotions mixed with your own pre-calculated misconceptions. Assumptions, are very tricky and can lead to a deteriorating relationship with your family members, friends, colleagues, and even yourself; should your self esteem suffer a major blow; god forbid.

What happened to being at peace, with the truth no matter what it was? Where did honesty go, along with openness and genuineness? Are they no longer required in this advanced culture of ours?

Look for truth, and nothing short of. Only the truth, will do everyone justice…

Its not about finding excuses, or hanging on to threads. Its about observing impartially and without being biased. It’s about being fair to all parties involved; including yourself, by allowing yourself to truly steer your life where you want it to go based on real factors, rather than mere guesses.

Rather than say never assume anything, i will ask you to Try it, at least for a day. Aim for concrete and absolute truth, nothing less. You deserve more, than to be blindly blending in with the herd, you deserve to choose your own path, and decide on the final destination.

Not everyone is a – lying and deceitful unworthy of your time – type of person. And unless you dedicate a teeny bit of effort, you could be falsely misjudging people, and missing out on some great bonds.

Life, is easier when you know, rather than assume. And who doesn’t wish their life was just a little bit easier?

“When you assume, you make an ass out of u and me.”