Ahmad Al Charif

Appearances may be deceiving. Sometimes what at first glance appears to be nothing short of the word “perfect”, turns out to be an Armageddon waiting to happen.

How do you define perfection, and what are the thresholds you use? As time progresses, it seems that more and more emphasis go on the exterior look, and how extravagantly it shines, or glitters.

But what good is an apple, if it is rotten on the inside? And where can a state of the art car take you, if you fail to provide it with the necessary maintenance, and fuel. Many more examples can be made, but the end result is one and the same.

Many of my friends often complain, that the right partner is nowhere to be found. However upon closer inspection, it is often a case of misguided pursuit of the perfect bundle. A checklist, in other words. Defining a very subjective idea, of what perfection is supposed to be.

People are seldom what they first appear to be at first glance, and this ever ongoing pursuit of a “perfect” partner might leave you hurt, disappointed, and severely scarred.

So what next? A female friend of mine once asked. Am i supposed to settle for the next best thing? Am i supposed to forget entirely about the things i believe are important to me?

Forget about your list. Live your life to the fullest, and do whatever it is that makes you lead a happy and balanced life. If along the way you meet someone that sparks your interest, that ignites in you that need to share your life with them, then look beyond the obvious, further than you usually dare venture.

Aim not for perfection, but for the potential of growth beyond expectation, for the both of you. Look for that one person, who completes you, and whom you complete in return. A relationship is supposed to be more of a partnership, and less of an exhibition for marvelous acquired trophies.

I don’t know about you, but last time i checked, nobody was perfect…

Has there been a change?